15 Responses to “How much would getting secretly married affect us?”

1. klarson33
   January 8th, 2012 - 4:14 am

   I don’t know why you would want to keep it a secret anyways. I’m sure you guys would have to file married. What’s wrong with getting engaged, plan a wedding, and finish school. I’m sure your family would be upset if you kept it a secret

2. zak r
   January 8th, 2012 - 4:23 am

   Well it depends it would change your tax forms and a few other things like your next of kin which would be your spouse. In the end you can just get married in a small church or chapel, but I think the cheapest and probable the best way to keep it a secret is an married by the court.

3. almarj70
   January 8th, 2012 - 4:40 am

   Sigh… if you are mature enough to get married then do so, with no shame and no secrecy. You are both legally adults so you don’t need mommy and daddy’s permission, nor do you need their approval. Stop all this “in secret bullcrap “and just do what will make you both happy.

4. Raghavendran T B
   January 8th, 2012 - 5:12 am

   Its better you convey to your parents that you have come to that stage and do it with their acceptance.

5. PS-V
   January 8th, 2012 - 5:51 am

   Yes, it will affect your taxes, etc.. What would be the point of getting married if you will continue to live apart?

6. The Truth Hurts
   January 8th, 2012 - 6:04 am

   It will affect taxes, financial aid, insurance, ownership of property… and THEN there is the effect on your relationships with your families… there are no positive consequences of getting married and then hiding it… why start your life together based on a lie?

7. Perse
   January 8th, 2012 - 6:51 am

   Then you can have a secret divorce-how fun!

8. L.
   January 8th, 2012 - 7:40 am

   I cringe whenever I hear of children talking about getting “secretly married.”

   You two are NOWHERE near close to being ready to get married.

   You two still live with your mommy and daddy for goodness sakes!!

   Stop trying to play grown-up. You’re not.

9. Nyan Kitty
   January 8th, 2012 - 7:46 am

   You may be able to keep it a secret for a bit. My mom told me of this one couple where their wedding was three months away, they wanted to get married sooner, but parents said no, it had to be in three months. So later they got married secretly by a judge and were able to keep the secret for a while. Probably until the big wedding day is my guess is when they spilled the beans. So you could keep it for maybe a while, I wouldn’t recommend to but you could pull it off.

10. Gordon
    January 8th, 2012 - 8:35 am

    It wouldn’t

11. Carmen
    January 8th, 2012 - 9:30 am

    I agree, what’s the point if u still live apart? Married people are independent from their parents, can support themselves. Otherwise it will be no different than dating. I suggest if you are dead set on getting married AND living together now, then you could get married and move in and ur parents would just have to get over it…but if you just want to get married cuz ur “in love” and can’t wait until u are able to live together..then I feel u would be making a huge mistake. Yes, you will have to disclose ur marital status on lots of things, taxes etc…or you would be committing fraud.

12. Certery
    January 8th, 2012 - 10:18 am

    Marriage means promising the other person that you will take care of them. So you’re planning on false vows then? Because I don’t see how you can take care of each other when you can’t even support yourself.
    If you’re not ready for a job, a house of your own, then wait.
    Reread that marriage contract, you’d be surprised just what it says.

    Your taxes would be different, your parents wouldn’t be allowed child support anymore… and they won’t know, because you plan to lie to them. So they may very well end up with fines for trying to cheat the government. Lying on your taxes? Yeah, that’s not going to be cheap.

    And I even believe that a marriage can get annulled if the couple isn’t living together.

13. Linda R
    January 8th, 2012 - 10:32 am

    Once you’re married – you’re married.

14. Liz
    January 8th, 2012 - 10:35 am

    Marriages are a matter of public record, so it would be impossible to keep one a secret. Getting married affects your taxes, insurances, student loans, benefits, etc. Trying (and failing) to keep something like this secret from your loved ones will cause irreparable damage to the relationships you have with your family members now, plus it will make it abundantly clear to the world that you are not ready to be married if you have to sneak around and lie about it. Just finish school first, you might learn some sense in the process.

15. nova_queen_28
    January 8th, 2012 - 10:58 am

    As a tax preparer, let me tell you this: if you are both in school & your parents claim you on their taxes, the IRS isn’t going to accept “we didn’t know because the kids didn’t tell us” as a defense to them committing TAX FRAUD.
    This is a horrible idea & would be an awful situation to put yourselves & your parents into … and I am only talking from the tax standpoint, not the family/relationship/emotional issues that this feeds into.